Dating can be a tricky game, especially for widowers dating again. The same goes for the ladies who happen to fall for a widower, but it surely doesn’t mean that they should get discouraged right from the beginning.
We bet you’re probably nervous about your date or won’t know how to act around him, but that is entirely normal. That is why we have prepared several tips which will help you impress your potential match and take the best out of this dating experience.
Arranging a date
It doesn’t matter whether you have met this man online or through mutual friends, you should always make sure to choose a public place for your first date. You will be surrounded by a bunch of people, that’s true, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t have a quality romantic time together.
Heck, all the best, romantic restaurants are usually packed, but people aren’t overly concerned about it. If you, on the other hand, want to do something interesting on your date, and not just eat, you can always go to a concert, visit a gallery, attend a cooking class or just go hiking.
Keep in mind that widowers have had a fair share of sadness and pain in their life, so your date will probably be interested in doing something adventurous and fun.
Think about conversation starters beforehand
Since he was married for quite some time, odds are he’s forgotten how to date, so you will need to take the wheel this time. We all know that awkward silence on the first date usually means there won’t be the second one, so think about some conversation starters beforehand.
Telling him about your interests or sharing some funny anecdotes is always a good choice. Also, if you both have children, you will never run out of topics. If you, on the other hand, want to play it safe, you can always talk about your hobbies, interests, jobs, or favorite artists.
Keep your date short and sweet
While some widowers are done grieving and are entirely ready to date again, others are not over their late spouses. Therefore, try to figure out which group your potential lover belongs to on your first date.
We believe that an hour is quite enough time to do so, so get in and get out. If you see that his emotional baggage isn’t weighing him down and that you get along very well, ask him out on the second date where you will be able to get to know each other much better.