We can’t help but think that society continually thrives, with various taboos no longer being taboos and with increased levels of empathy and acceptance toward ones who are different from us. The truth is that fight is far from over but we simply have to be optimistic about the outcome. Still, if we return to a present day, we’ll discover that numerous myths surrounding disabled singles still persist so we simply feel obliged to attempt to debunk some of them, or die trying. So please accept this kind invitation to take a look at following paragraphs and you will most likely see there are some of them for which even you believe are true. We’d like to change that.
Disabled People Crave Sympathy
Even though we can’t generalize things because we’re certain there are still some people – especially the ones whose disability is of a more recent date – who do want to experience sympathetic reactions, the truth is there are many individuals out there who were born with their disabilities and therefore are not expecting any sympathy because they don’t know what it’s like to live without a rare genetic disorder or Down’s syndrome, for instance. This means that their perception of normal doesn’t coincide with yours. Empathy, on the other hand, is always a praiseworthy characteristic that every human being should hold on to and nurture it because we believe it’s a solid proof of our emotional evolution, which in addition to our intellect and consciousness, separates us from our animal ancestors.
Disabled People don’t work
Well, how about all those remarkable scientists such as Stephen Hawking, Helen Keller or John Nash? It depends on the type of disability, of course, but there are many examples of disabled people who gave exceptional contributions to the world of science and art, meaning that they received formal education and also weren’t afraid to spend countless hours working. Work, on the other hand, is also a great therapy that has numerous positive effects on emotional health and can be a great way to blow off some steam and cope with disability in an efficient way.
Physically disabled equals mentally disabled
This is just plain wrong. There are some cases when physical disability is followed by the mental impairment but this is not the rule of thumb obviously. As we already stated above, there are many extraordinary examples of magnificent minds who were/are trapped in disabled bodies but it doesn’t/didn’t stop them from excelling in certain professional areas.
Disabled People Don’t Need Romantic Love
Now, to assume something like this is basically absurd as disabled individuals have the equal emotional capacities for developing lasting relationships just like any able-bodied person has. Nowadays, dating for disabled individuals is even present on the Internet because many people with disabilities are prone to body shaming or are simply not as active as much as they could be so they find it quite difficult to find love in a traditional way. This is not the situation in general, just to be clear, but the truth is that many people are immensely shy due to various reasons and this doesn’t even have anything to do with any form of a disability or handicap. Also, it’s important to emphasize that having a handicap or disability of any kind doesn’t make you any less man or a woman, with all corresponding needs and desires.
Disabled People are not Independent
This one is incorrect, too. We guess it all depends on how one observes the term “independent”. Take for instance this young, able-bodied male in his thirties, without a job, still living with his parents and you’ll easily come to the conclusion that he’s not independent. On the other hand, we can also hypothetically imagine a girl in her twenties, in a wheelchair, who finished the math school and now gives paid tutoring lessons via Skype. Is she not independent? We don’t think so.
Generalization has never brought anything good, especially when it comes to more vulnerable groups of people, regardless of their vulnerability is a result of a different sexual orientation, gender dysphoria or their disability. Still, it seems that people always tend to judge those who are different, which probably has the background in fear of the unknown. What instils us the optimism though is the fact that we’re living in the age of information and activism, which will certainly make everything go for the better. And we are hoping to witness at least a part of these positive changes.
What are your thoughts on these common disability myths? Do you think we’ve missed something important? We’d really like to hear from you in the comment section below!